Getting a girl to kiss you for the first time can be scary, but it’s also incredibly exciting. Here are a few things you can try to make it happen.
Alison Steadman and Myra Frances kissed on screen for the first time in 1974 on the BBC drama Girl. It is now available to view on the BBC Store as part of a Pride in London collection.
Invite her over for a sleepover
While it may be tempting to invite a girl you are interested in for a sleepover, it is important to read the signs. If the girl flirts with you, leans close to you when talking, and gets touchy-feely, she is probably interested in kissing you. If she does not show these signals, it is best to move on and find someone who is more into you.
There are a number of ways to kiss a lesbian for the first time, but it is crucial to be aware of her signals. For example, if she leans close to you and runs her hands through your hair, she is likely interested in kissing you. It is also important to avoid using body language that suggests she does not want to kiss you.
Parents should be aware that once kids hit puberty, sexual feelings will awaken and sleepovers — as well as unsupervised daytime visits — can become an opportunity for sexual exploration, Hakanson said. It’s important to keep family rules consistent, regardless of sexual orientation.
Go for a walk
If you’re both comfortable enough, then going on a walk might be the perfect place to try kissing. It gives you a chance to talk and get to know each other better, while still being in a more intimate setting. Try to find a place that’s private and not too busy. This will make the experience more romantic.
If you’re unsure if she’s open to kissing, then try reading her body language. If she flirts with you, leans close to you when talking, or runs her hands through your hair, it’s a good sign that she’s into you. You could also try grazing her arm or shoulder while you’re talking, and see how she reacts. You might have to do this a few times to read her reaction. If she’s uncomfortable, then you might want to think about changing your plans.
Watch a movie
Whether you want to spook yourself with a horror movie or cry your eyes out with a tearjerker, Netflix has got you covered. It’s also got plenty of LGBTQ+-friendly films that celebrate lesbian love and history.
Some of these movies center around a lesbian romance, while others include it as a minor plot element in another genre. But regardless of their focus, these films are great for seeing women in romantic relationships that aren’t your typical rom-com.
This dark crime thriller from the Wachowskis (the sisters behind The Matrix) follows street hustler Violet and her girlfriend, who plan a bank heist to get their hands on millions of dollars. This film includes some explicit scenes and suggestive intimacy, but it’s worth the watch for its feminist message and strong lead performances.
Bring up some lesbians
Unless she’s an out lesbian, chances are she has some interest in lesbians. She may mention K.D. Lang, Ellen or the Indigo Girls. If she has a passion for these women or shows intense eye contact when she talks about them, it can indicate that she’s open to kissing girls.
While many people associate lesbians with porn, it’s important to remember that sex between two women is a natural part of life for a lot of people. In fact, a large number of women (including some trans and non-cis) who identify as lesbians have healthy relationships that last.
If you’re ready to take things up a notch, try reading some lesbian love stories. They can make any kiss feel 10 times more passionate. It’s also important to familiarise yourself with the female anatomy. Most women need clitoral stimulation along with penetration to reach orgasm. Knowing how to stimulate this area can earn you serious brownie points!